Why Should I Consider the Collaborative process?
If you answer yes to any of the following questions, then you will are a good candidate for the Collaborative approach to dispute resolution:
- Do you want to participate in a process that encourages mutual respect and a civilized resolution to your dispute?
- Do you want to keep open the possibility of friendship or at least a peaceful relationship with your partner/ex-spouse in the future?
- Do you want to co-parent effectively with your partner/ex-spouse in the future?
- Do you want to protect your children from the harm typically associated with litigated disputes between parents?
- Do you and your partner/spouse/ex-spouse have mutual friends and family members to which each of you wish to remain connected?
- Do you have ethical or spiritual beliefs that highly value taking personal responsibility for handling conflicts with integrity and respect?
- Do you want to maintain privacy in your personal and financial affairs rather than having this personal information made part of a public record?
- Do you want to have control over the decisions and final outcome of the disputed issue rather than giving a stranger (i.e., a judge) the power to decide your financial future and how you will raise your children?
- Do you recognize the restricted range of possible outcomes generally available in the public court system, and want a more creative and individualized range of choices available to you and your family through the collaborative approach to dispute resolution?
- Do you place as much or more value on your future relationships that will exist in your restructured family situation as you place on obtaining the maximum possible amount of money for yourself?
- Do you understand that conflict resolution with integrity involves not only achieving your own goals but finding a way to achieve the reasonable goals of the other person?
- Can you and the person you are in conflict with commit your intelligence and energy toward creative problem solving rather than toward recriminations or revenge?
- Are you committed to resolving the conflict and looking toward the future rather than assigning blame and living in the past?
- For families with children (of whatever age), Collaborative Law provides a way for parents to restructure, allowing them to co-parent and communicate on good terms. To whatever extent possible, both parents can be actively involved in their children’s lives and able to participate comfortably in their children’s milestone events – graduation, marriage, births, ball games, drama productions, tap dance performances. For others, Collaborative Law provides an opportunity for business partners, family members, friends and/or neighbors to resolve legal issues respectfully, cooperatively, quickly, and intelligently.
For more info on Collaborative Law, see www.collaborativepractice.com.